MY wife is 30 years old and husband is 42 years old. We were married for six years and had no children. My menstrual cycle is not fixed between 30 to 40 days, while the husband is a hardcore smoker.
At the beginning of the marriage, our sex is as normal as three to four times a week. However, entering the third year of sex is reduced to once a week until the sixth year and finally once a month.
Unpleasant sex makes me think that it might be the reason why we have not got any.
I once suggested the husband to do a semen fertility test but the reactions received cut my heart. I admit my menstrual cycle is not fixed and often suffer from menstruation when it comes to menstruation.
Before this I never get modern treatments and just massage and drink wood roots. Until one stage I am undergoing blood test through fertility.
However, until now I have not been able to conceive. Can a doctor help me?
You and your spouse are married in a modern era but you still have old attitudes and minds.
In your case, husbands dodge when the issue of fertility is highlighted and she also refuses to undergo the examination. However, if you are undergoing a fertility check it does not give any benefit.
When the frequency of sexual intercourse is low, the rate of pregnancy achievement is also less, especially if age is increasing.
As the total fertility rate of Malaysia (Total Fertility Rate) decreased from 3.1 (TFR Rate 2003) to 2.67 (TFR Rate 2011), this rate would plummeted if many couples got married delayed gaining or receiving treatment.
I recommend you and your spouse to visit any fertility center or Gynecology at government clinics and hospitals for advice and treatment of fertility.
Trying to use ‘fertile’ medicine for women without basic examination is not a wise way. In fact, comprehensive fertility checks involve the husband’s semen test, testing the production of eggs for the wife through progesterone hormone testing and the test of the condition of the uterus and egg channel through x-rays known as HSG or laparoscopic small surgery.